Lexie_1987

Hello. So you all probably know me pretty well, I'm with you for quite some time already and I love working out just like you do.

I never took any steroids, although I take my diet and gym overall rather seriously. From time to time I actually receive negative comments about my figure, mostly from people that aren't my friends.

They are also people that don't work out or when they do they limit themselves to cardio and eating cheeseburgers afterwards, so I don't take their opinion seriously, but I wanted to ask if someone here experienced something similar.

I would also like to point out, that those comments came mostly from women not men, which is another reason to not care that much.

Men are rather complementing my figure and how I look or the way that I work out at the gym.

Actually I hear mean talking about me working out as heavy as them or just smiling quite often - it is a nice feeling.

While women usually have this envious look and are saying things, like that I'm too ripped. Is it jealousy?

They rarely say it face to face though, but friends or people that I'm closer with, usually tell me about such comments.

I had some women tell me that face to face as well, but it was more in a delicate way. Something like, "hey, you look like you don't have to workout anymore, you have achieved even more than we would ever want to." or something. I don't get it. I'm just working out for quite some time and I'm not even that big or shredded. I tend to have rather low body fat percentage, that's true, but it's still not even close to women that you see at professional competitions.

Katyaa

Well, to be honest I have never encountered any negative comments face-to-face, but I know that people are talking about me behind my back. I hear comments like: why does she keep working out so hard? What for? She already looks really good, does she want to turn into a man? This is pretty common and I don't care about it anymore.

I have also noticed, that it's mostly women that are saying things like this. I have never heard anything negative from men either and even as I have a husband already, I care about men's opinion in this regard much more than women's. It's probably just jealousy. They want to look like you, they want men to look at their bodies at gym as well, but they can't get on your level - because they are too weak. So what's the best defensive mechanism? Talk about it in a negative way - persuade your own mind, that it's actually her doing wrong not me. There is no point in working out so hard, I'm already very feminine and attractive.

What is the point in having such a big legs and round boot? It's not feminine! They are taking steroids etc... Trust me, there is nothing wrong with what you are doing, this is just jealousy of other people. You don't see those comments coming from men, because you are not their competition - rather you are a target on which they focus their attention.

Entirely different thing with women - who are your direct competition and as they know, that they are not strong and dedicated enough to get on your level, they will try to subconsciously change your mind about getting in shape.

Don't worry about this and keep doing what you do!

MomLovesIron

Hey, I know what you mean. I don't receive any negative comments in a direct way as well, but I hear some stuff.

I'm not that ripped as you are. I'm one of these women, that like to keep some extra fat and are focusing much more on strength and lifting, so I have never heard anybody telling me that I'm too shredded, that I'm a pro bikini fitness wannabe, but I have heard other stuff.

Like I usually lift pretty heavy weights - as for a woman of course, but I'm pretty often lifting more than men at my gym and I get those looks from men as well.

Unlike in your case, they are not always showing admiration in an sexual way, but they tend to view me as their rival. Mostly those men that are just starting and are out of shape - they don't want to be weaker than a woman. Pretty hilarious to be honest, but I have never seen any negativity from their end either, just a little bit different looks.

As for women - well, they often like to remind me that I'm BIG. That my legs are too big, that I'm getting too big overall and they think that it's time to lose some weight.

I'm already on relatively low body fat compared to them, but they don't see it cause I have a lot of muscle as well.

To look as skinny as them I would have to get to 10% body fat or below and that wouldn't be achievable without tons of hard work and possibly steroids.

So, just like Katyaa said - it's jealousy. I have twice as big bootie as my peers, which is also more round and better looking overall, so they can't stand it and very often

I become the main subject of their gossip over the glass of wine.

bynx

That's how life works and you have to accept it. In basically every area, if you are above average - or, like in your case you are in like <10% of the best, you will meet both those that adore you, admire you and want to learn from you as well as those who will try to make your life miserable, just because they lack strength to achieve what you did. Don't get me wrong, those people that are constantly hating are also admiring you - but they won't admit it, just like Katyaa said mostly because they subconsciously don't want their mind to believe that they are weak, so they choose defensive stance of denying to admit publicly your efforts and they continue to affect your performance negatively in any way they can.

You just can't worry about it, move on and do your thing

There is many more people looking at you with admiration and desire than those that will talk about you behind your back, just because you are better than them at something.

PinkLuna

So, I have never heard of anything like you have described to be honest, but it's probably because I'm not good enough

There is many women in better shape than me at my gym. Hard to say if they are on your level, but some of them has really put a lot of effort into their body and I didn't hear of any negative comments about them either. Maybe it's because I don't really have any personal relations with people at my gym, we talk of course, but not in a way like good friends talk.

So it's possible that those negative comments are happening at my gym as well towards women in better shape than me, just I know nothing of this.

sharon123

I never had any negative comments towards me either and I'm lifting for 3 years already.

I don't focus on strength or very low body fat percentage. I just work out to be healthy and in shape.

I'm one of the fittest women at my gym, but maybe not good enough to be talked about or I'm just deaf.

It's also possible that people working out at my gym are generally very nice and friendly people, that are only getting motivated more and more by following people like me or few other people, but I kind of doubt that.

I'll only add that I'm working out at pretty big gym that doesn't have this friendly vibe, like other, smaller gyms, where people are a very tight-knit community.

I don't really see people talking to each other at all here to be honest.

Lamina

I know what you are talking about. I haven't really received many negative comments towards me either, but yes - I did remember some women, trying to gently say to me that I'm working out too much. Of course, they were saying it like they admire me - but I felt that deep down there, they were making fun of me, when I for example said that I don't drink alcohol anymore and I rather have a protein shake.

It's not that I'm 100% dedicated to diet and that staying in shape is the most important thing for me.

I tend to eat at McDonalds or KFC from time to time - I'm rather more about enjoying life, but when you say to somebody that you don't drink, they automatically look at you like you were some kind of freak.

So, in this manner I have probably had a lot of people talking about me behind my back and saying that I'm trying too hard, that I want to turn into a man or something.

I generally don't care what people think about me. I know who I am, I know my goals and I just do what I want to do.

I don't allow anyone's opinion to impact me.

cherryjuice

Those things do happen and best you can do is just turn a blind eye to this. It's not even worth thinking about.

It's not that you girls are looking like you were on steroids and are turning into a man, right? You are just fit women who work out for several years, love staying in shape and do their best in order to improve. Those who make fun of you because you have enough motivation, strength and dedication to pull this off are sad, little creatures.

I had some comments towards me as well, although never face-to-face. Nobody has ever told me this face-to-face and every man I know is looking at my body with desire, especially when I'm doing squats Don't worry and of course - don't care about such people.

Haters are everywhere - you just start noticing them, when you are becoming good at something.

It's actually a great motivation to keep up your progress - it works amazingly good for me. The jealous look of other women is priceless.

Most women actually work out and try to look good because they want to impress other women - this is what makes me different from them as I only want to impress myself.

I used to be like them, but I'm not anymore.

Lexie_1987

Like always I'm receiving great answers here. Thank you! I will do so.

I will just stop caring about what other people think and keep improving, so it will anger them and force them to talk about me even more.

I was also considering switching to a bigger gym - as I have noticed that people there are less friendly and they don't even talk that much - probably because they don't really know each other in opposition to the gym I'm currently working out at - we all kind of know each other for quite some time already, but I have changed my mind.

There is nothing more motivating than getting even better in front of those people, that are constantly talking behind your back.

Lamina

Exactly, Lexie_1987! That's the correct mindset. Instead of running away, we gotta fight our problems head on. Much more satisfaction comes from that.