I have also noticed that my veins are more visible when I drink more water, despite being at higher body fat percentage, so now I know for sure, what was the cause of this

Thanks annbee!

So, I have never heard of anything like you have described to be honest, but it's probably because I'm not good enough

There is many women in better shape than me at my gym. Hard to say if they are on your level, but some of them has really put a lot of effort into their body and I didn't hear of any negative comments about them either. Maybe it's because I don't really have any personal relations with people at my gym, we talk of course, but not in a way like good friends talk.

So it's possible that those negative comments are happening at my gym as well towards women in better shape than me, just I know nothing of this.

Okay, I have talked with him. He agreed with me on working out at home. We have a pretty big garage, so he bought some equipment and he told me that he will start there next week, although he also wants to get on diet, so he can lose some weight. I'm actually very happy with his reasoning. I thought getting him to get on diet will be much harder task, but he said that he doesn't want to waste time as he doesn't care that much about being fit and healthy or any of those things. He simply wants to be more masculine and he knows that he needs to do his best in order to achieve that.

I'm relieved to be honest. I still don't know if he will stick to working out or not, but I hope he will :)

I want to thank you all for your input! You definitely helped me in achieving something that I have already considered impossible :P

Thanks, Katyaa! That's an brilliant idea, but I would never thought of him to think like this. I'm overweight and out of shape myself, but I'm trying my best to change this and he knows that, so I just thought it will be easier to make those changes if he has someone like me to support him... I will talk to him, but in an less direct way as you have all suggested here :)

Hello! I'm new here, although I have been lurking on this forum for a while. I would like my husband to work out with me, but he keeps refusing and he won't give me any reasonable answer on why he doesn't want to do it. I don't want to keep nagging him about it, but maybe he just doesn't want to be seen with me because I'm fat? Thing is that he also is overweight and it would do a lot of good for both of us to finally start doing something with our bodies. He is working from home mostly because he is an programmer, so his only activity is to walk out the dog few times a week. He literally became so boring person... Do you have any ideas on how could I make him attend the gym with me?

Thanks for your help!